Bisexual erasure is term I recently learned, I’ve always known it was a ‘thing’ but I never knew a term had been coined to describe the tendency to dispute a person’s bisexuality. There is a ‘B’ in LGBT but I feel like bisexuals get the short end of the stick in the community sometimes.
Personally, I have been told by other members of the LGBT community, as wells as those who identify as heterosexual, that bisexuality doesn’t exist. I must admit, hearing these words hurts more when it comes from another member of the LGBT community. It hurts more because as a community, I feel like we should try harder to understand and accept each other for who we are.
According to the popular website Urban Dictionary, bisexual erasure is described as:
The tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, the news media, and other primary sources. In its most extreme form, bisexual erasure can include denying that bisexuality exists.
There have been many bisexual characters on T.V and in films over the past few years. Even though these characters identify themselves as bisexual, other characters often refer to them as homosexuals. There is a big difference between being homosexual and bisexual.
Bisexuals prefer both male & female, while homosexuals prefer their own gender.
I think one of the reasons for the confusion about bisexuality and the questioning of it’s legitimacy, is because many people use it as a pit stop before coming out.
Most people feel that it is a lot easier to say that they are bisexual, than admit to themselves and others that they are homosexual. I have many homosexual friends who’ve claimed to be bisexual at first, to ease themselves into coming out. That isn’t their fault at all, it’s societies fault.
It does however, make bisexuality seem illegitimate at times.
Calling bisexuality a “phase” or “just being greedy” is also extremely inconsiderate and ignorant. Even some of my favorite show’s have had bouts of bi erasure in their scripts. Willow Rosenberg, from Buffy The Vampire Slayer was referred to as a being gay because she dated Tara. Willow also had a deeply loving relationship with a male character named Oz, in previous seasons.
Yet, she was never referred to as a bisexual character.
Or take the popular Netflix series Orange Is The New Black, where main character Piper Chapman is referred to as a “former lesbian”, despite her past relationships with men.
True Blood actress Anna Paquin shut down Larry King after he questioned her bisexuality, referring to her as a “nonpracticing bisexual”. Skip to the 11 minute mark for her response!
So let’s get this straight (pardon the pun!) women who identify as bisexual are not straight when they are dating a male, nor are they lesbians when dating a female. The logic applies to bisexual men also, of course. Bisexuality is a legitimate sexuality, regardless of what the media and social norms may lead people to believe.
Bisexual people have a lot to deal with, we get told that we are liars and are more likely to cheat on our partners because we like both sexes, which is just preposterous. We are not ripping off our pants at the sight of every person we meet on the street, like everyone else we have our preferences.
I suggest checking out this fantastic article about Bisexual Women Discussing Their Long-Term Relationships With Men. Not to disappoint you but we’re not closet lesbians and we shouldn’t have to defend ourselves as part of the LGBT community.
Back in 2011 decided to set up my own online shop. I wanted to share my creative side with others, have fun with fashion and run my own little business. As is the case with many solo ventures, life got in the way and Riottt Gear was no more for quite some time, until now.
I am so excited to announce that I will be relaunching the site very soon.
I’ll be testing the waters for a while and hopefully, if all goes well, the site will grow and develop.
Riottt Gear will be selling alternative fashion, clothing & accessories.
Jourdan Dunn is a British model, who has worked with huge names such as Topshop, Balmain, Burberry and Yves Saint Laurent. Her career started when she was discovered while shopping in Primark in 2006. shortly after she signed to Storm Model Management. She made her modelling debut only a year after being scouted by walking for Marc Jacobs and Polo Ralph Lauren. Jourdan was one of the first models of colour to grace Prada’s catwalk in over a decade. She’s fierce!
Not only is her career amazing, so is her personal style. Her style boasts a winning combination of high street chic meets street. I love how she mixes dress and casual pieces flawlessly.
Jourdan’s personal style consists of fashionable key pieces from the high street, mixed with urban inspired clothing. This year at the Coachella music festival in California, she kept her look low-key and casual by wearing Chicago Bull’s vest as a long dress and paired it with a matching baseball cap and black sneakers. Proving that you can in fact be stylish and comfortable at the same time!
She is a huge fan of wearing stylish leather jackets and admits to most of her wardrobe consisting of black and monochrome clothing. Jourdan isn’t into wearing much jewelry but love’s wearing hats as an accessory, specifically snap backs and beanie. She combines feminine patterns and fabrics with solid block colours to create a fashionable contrast to the outfits she wears.
As she is always on he go and travelling to her next big photoshoot location, Jourdan loves to shop online for fashion. Her favorite sites to browse for online shopping are Net-a-Porter and Matches.
Just for the record, her style icons are Rihanna and Victoria Beckham!
Jourdan’s go-to make up look is very natural and complimentary of her beautiful facial features. She’s a huge fan of YSL Le Touche Eclat products, which help illuminate her skin, give her a dewy glow and bring out those fierce cheekbones! She keeps her eye’s natural by applying a neutral eyes shadow to the lid and applying black mascara to thicken and lengthen her eyelashes. Her favorite brand of mascara is Burberry and is also a huge fan of Bobbi Brown products.
Whether she is rocking a long weave, a sleek bob or beautiful braids, Jourdan always looks fantastic. Her look is so versatile, she suits almost any hairstyle! She recently admitted to wearing wigs, to give her natural locks a break from styling. To keep your hair in top shape, try using deep conditioning treatments once a week like Jourdan does. This will help your hair soak up moisture.
Another helpful tip is to use a wide tooth comb to de-tangle your hair instead of a hairbrush, this will help prevent further breakage. One of Jourdan’s top beauty tricks is to carry a toothbrush in her handbag, to slick down any baby hair’s & pesky flyaway hair when she’s out and about.
Jourdan Dunn’s latest career milestone is featuring alongside Supermodel and fashion icon Naomi Campbell. in Burberry’s spring/summer 2015 campaign. What a winning fashion combo!
Something tells me we’ll be seeing a lot more of Jourdan Dunn in the future!
As a female who reads comic books (yes, we actually exist. In fact, estimates suggesting that 46.67 per cent of comic fans are women) I am always looking for female protagonist to look to for inspiration. That is not to say that I find male hero’s any less inspirational but lets be real, there are less female characters in comics. Especially leading characters, who have the upper hand and kick ass skills to match, let alone rival their male counterparts.
As a child of the 90s, I became infatuated with Batman: The Animated Series, which began my love for Harley Quinn and many other Gotham/Arkham residents, including Poison Ivy. Ivy was usually included in episodes along side Harley, she added something to the story and she did have some great episodes that really showcased her character. Even so, I always thought it was a shame she never got as much air time as Harley because she is an incredibly interesting character.
Poison Ivy made her first appearance in Batman ##181 in June 1966 and has been a hit with fans of the comic books and films ever since. How is it that she doesn’t have her own stand alone comic book series yet!? Seriously.
Even though Ivy is depicted as a villain in the comics, she is such an important character to many women across the world and has a pivotal role in the Batman universe. Ivy is one of Batman’s greatest enemies and uses biology and science as her greatest weapon against him. She’s one smart chick and she’s passionate about her job. Okay, so she may be a little more passionate than most..
But that doesn’t take away from the fact that Ivy deserves her own stand alone comic book series, heck, she deserves her own movie, merch and more respect. It’s not enough to just include her in Gotham City Sirens & Birds of Prey. Female characters have a strong market, if only DC, Marvel & other publishers would give them a chance. Marvel comic’s new female Thor is outselling the old, male version by 30 per cent. You know why? Because people are hungry for change. They are hungry for strong female characters.
Even after the release of the blockbuster hit Avengers: Age of Ultron, fans were perplexed by the lack of Black Widow merchandise available, yet there was plenty on offer for fans of her male team mates. What are these publishing companies afraid of? There’s a demand for more stand alone female hero/villain comics & films. So, why not give the people what they want?
Reading comics and watching t.v shows about hero’s and villains inspired me to study Criminology in college. I have heard from a friend of mine, that Poison Ivy inspired her to study science. Reading comics like Rat Queens and Ms Marvel have given me hope that there is a future and a market for kick ass, girl power comics. Reading can be a very powerful experience, teamed with the visual artwork that comes along with comic books and graphic novels, it can move you. It can take you away from your everyday life and you can imagine what it is like to be unapologetically powerful, just like a women on the pages of the comics we read.
We are slowly moving forward in the right direction. I can only hope that the fans are heard and that DC finally give this character the stand alone series that she deserves.
I think Alice Walker said it best when she said, “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” Let DC and other publishing companies know how you feel about the lack of female hero’s/villains because, sometimes hero’s need help too.
1. What product do you keep buying more of, despite having plenty of in your collection?
Definitely more lipstick! My favorite shades are usually pinks & reds but on occasion I do love to take a bit of a risk with a deep plum or black lipstick. I just love how applying lipstick can really finish off your look. I find lipstick to be a really glam product, it makes me feel ten times better whenever I wear it. When it comes to lipsticks, a girl can never have too many shades!
2. What’s the one product you can’t live without?
The one product I couldn’t live without would have to be mascara. I feel like I look like a sheet of white paper with pupils when I don’t wear any mascara! Most days I don’t wear any make-up at all, except for mascara. I usually give my lashes a quick curl with an eyelash curler, then slick on some black mascara and I am good to go for the day. Ohhh & hair dye, I need that in my life!
I used to hate not wearing any make-up but now I prefer to only wear it once or twice a week. Most days i’m barefaced! Someday’s I will wear a mineral foundation from Beautiful Movements Cosmetics, it’s breathable and light on my skin, I don’t even feel like I am wearing make-up when I have it on! It looks so natural. I love the fact that Beautiful Movements Cosmetics are cruelty free.
3. Favourite makeup brand?
My favorite make-up brand would have to be a tie between Barry M & Urban Decay. Both are cruelty free companies that sell fantastic quality products. Barry M have amazing pigmented lipsticks and vibrant nail polishes. I love Urban Decay’s eye shadow palettes. I wish I was good at applying eye shadow so I could make the most of them! Ohhh also, I love Collection 2000.
Okay, so I’ve three favorite brands!
4. How big is your makeup collection?
I’ll put it this way, my boyfriend sighs whenever I bring home any new beauty products or make-up. He can’t understand how one person own so many beauty products, hah! He is probably right! I mean, how many shades of red lipstick can one girl own? (A lot is the answer, a lot!) I do think my collection is probably very small in comparison to other beauty bloggers though.
5. How do you store your makeup collection?
I store my make-up in a plastic drawer in my bathroom and some other make-up is stored in some funky boxes in my room. I try to keep my make-up in order but sometimes it’s impossible!
6. How many items of makeup do you have in your handbag at the moment?
I always say that my handbag is like the Barney bag, full of weird surprises! I always carry some tissue, face powder & lip balm, no matter what. Other than that, I am not too fussy. If I am going somewhere special or on a night out, I always carry make-up reinforcement! If I am wearing eyeliner or lipstick, I carry it in my bag to top it up through out the night.
7. If you could raid another blogger’s stash, who would it be?
That would have to be my friend LetzMakeup. She is well educated about make-up and beauty products. I just really trust and value her opinion on different products, so I know her stash would be a gold mine for any make-up lover! Her make-up is always so on point. She’s so talented!
8. How long does your makeup routine take and how many products do you use?
It depends on where I am going. If I am at home or just running errands, I will wear little to no make-up at all. A slick of lip balm and mascara does me fine, I like to let my skin breath when I can because it is so sensitive. If I am going somewhere special, I put in more effort.
If I have time I put on foundation, brow gel, a neutral eye shadow and my my ‘go to’ winged eyeliner look. I love lining underneath my eyes too. I have a specific flick I draw near the inner corner of my eyes that always makes me feel more dolled up! Then I finish off with a bright lip.
9. Have you ever bought makeup knowing you wouldn’t use it?
Oh my god, YES! Hasn’t every girl? It happens far more often than i’d like to admit! Sometimes I will have have a moment of madness and think that I can pull off some mad coloured eye shadow or somehow think I will magically have the skills to use a certain product correctly. Then I convince myself I need it in my life and when I get home I think to myself ‘why the hell did I buy this?’
10. Tag a few other makeup addicts to do this tag
I tag these beauty’s:
Feeling like a freak is never easy. You feel incredibly out of touch with other people, it makes you think that no matter what you do or say, people are judging you or laughing at you. You never quite feel like you blend in right in social situations, it’s awkward. It’s an uncomfortable feeling. Being odd is like having spinach stuck in your teeth, you’re aware of it and so is everyone else.
I have always felt different from others but doesn’t everybody? We all feel disconnected from each other sometimes, so when we find a common interest or passion, it allows us to click with each other on another level. That is what cosplaying does for me, it allows me to be creative.
My first ever cosplay was dressing up as my favorite comic book character, Harley Quinn.
I remember walking down to the lobby of the hotel room I was staying in, to join a group of friends who I was cosplaying with at a convention that evening, we were dressed as Batman villains. My heart was racing and it took me all the courage in the world to leave my hotel room in full costume. It was terrifying, nauseating and ridiculously liberating all at once! There really is something incredibly strange about being in costume when it’s not Halloween. It’s odd!
Once I got over the feeling of being stared at by strangers and having a few old people laugh at me in the elevator, I was on a high! I got loads of compliments on my costume and a few people took pictures with me, it was such a confidence boost. Since then I have cosplayed as Harley Quinn many times, sometimes I dress up as her just for kicks, even when I am not at a convention.
I understand that may sound very strange to anyone who doesn’t understand cosplaying but it’s so much fun! I don’t think people do enough of what makes them happy sometimes, in fear that others might think it’s weird or unconventional. If something brings you joy, you have to indulge in that passion, not matter what others think. After all, life is for living & you only live once!
In a previous blog post I explained my thoughts on Harley Quinn as a character but her character means more to me than just being someone fun to dress up as. I relate to her personally and I find her to be very enchanting. Cosplaying as Harley has given me more confidence in myself, by allowing me to not take everything so seriously. You’re never too old to have fun cosplaying!
Cosplaying has been a major part of my life for about two years now. I don’t get to cosplay as often as I would like but there’s something to be said about planning a future cosplay. It gets my creative juices flowing and makes me excited to share my costume with other fans.
People may laugh at me for dressing up as a comic book characters in my spare time but the way I see it, who cares? I have a blast! I get to chat with other people who share a common interest and let loose for the day. I find cosplaying to be stress-reliving and a way to build my self esteem.
Any time I explain to someone that I like to dress up as comic book characters and go to conventions, I am met with raised eyebrows or suppressed laughter. It doesn’t even bother me because I know that those people probably care too much about what others think about them, to ever enjoy something so authentically. Cosplaying and Sci-Fi Conventions have allowed me to meet some of the most wonderful people I have ever met. I’ve made life long friends and memories that will stick with me forever. It’s been a blessing in my life & I’m so thankful for it.
For a long time I felt like I didn’t have a creative outlet that allowed me to express myself and once I found cosplaying, it was like a light bulb went off in my head. This was the perfect way for me to combine my love for fashion and geeky stuff together! It was perfect for me, I could piece together an outfit and feel creatively satisfied at the beginning, middle & end of the process.
Harley Quinn is a huge part of my life and truly has changed my life for the better.
To quote Bertrand Russel, ‘Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.’ Don’t be afraid to try something outside of the box, you might just enjoy it!