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Today is World Suicide Prevention day. A day that encourages us all to take a moment, pause and reflect on the world around us. When suffering with your mental health, it can he difficult to see the forest for the trees. It is important to create some perspective, to try and shift our mindset to a healthier outlook on life. Don’t get me wrong, I know that it isn’t easy and often times, things feel a lot deeper than this. However, I do think it is a step in the right direction.

Today, I want to focus reasons to stay alive, to keep going and see the beauty in this world.

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the little things that make our world beautiful:

  • Crisp autumn mornings
  • Comforting cups of tea
  • Travelling to a new place
  • Hearing a song you love
  • Laughing so hard you cry!
  • Suggling up on a couch with a loved one
  • Puppies!
  • Hugs and kisses
  • Funny memes
  • Good people
  • Cat videos
  • Feeling sunshine grace your skin
  • Breathing in fresh countryside air
  • Cute old couples who are still madly in love
  • Getting lost in a good book
  • Connecting with another human being

  • Dancing like nobody is watching
  • Making someone laugh
  • Vacations & holidays
  • Feeling close to someone
  • Helping others
  • Love!
  • Random acts of kindness
  • Meeting new people who “get” us
  • When your pet is happy to see you!
  • Looking up at the stars
  • Holding hands
  • Feel-good tv shows
  • Seeing your favourite band perform live
  • Wearing an outfit that makes you feel good
  • Staying up all night having deep conversations about life
  • Picking up the phone and hearing the voice of someone you love
  • The ocean and it’s wonders
  • Witnessing the beauty of nature
  • The vastness of the universe

  • Getting outdoors and exploring
  • Happy memories
  • Technology
  • The fact that his lovely video exists (It’s pure joy!)
  • Sleeping on clean bedding
  • Getting a good nights rest
  • Eating your favourite food
  • Taking a long hot shower
  • Going to the cinema
  • The amazement that we can see the moon from our living rooms
  • This 5 Year old Superhero who’s dreams came true
  • Receiving a handwritten letter in the post
  • Visiting a friend, for tea and a chat
  • Cute, random texts from people
  • Art! Poetry! Film! Theater!
  • Signing along to a song at the top of your lungs

  • Hearing a child laugh
  • Watching a hilarious comedy
  • Good things happening to those you love
  • Good things that have happened/will happen to you
  • Everyday, small things you do with loved ones
  • Sunrises and sunsets
  • Snow! Sunshine! Rain!
  • Rick & Morty
  • Chocolate
  • Making something with your own hands
  • Accomplishing goals, no matter how big or small
  • Dancing in the rain
  • The fact that anything is possible
  • Dressing up at Halloween
  • A smile from a stranger
  • Cozy evenings by the fire
  • Flowers! Trees! Animals!
  • The astonishment that we live on a globe floating in space!
  • The list goes on and on, my friend! The world is what we make of it.

If you need to talk to somebody about how you are feeling, please do. There is nothing to be ashamed of. We are humans, we are capable of compassion, love and understanding.

There will always be someone to listen. There are always reasons to stay.

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Reminder: It’s okay to say no.

As somebody who find’s it hard to say no, it is difficult for me to put aside me own needs. Mainly, because I feel the need to constantly please others and not let them down. This is something I have struggled with for a long time, and to be honest, I still do. We often put our own needs and wants on the back-burner, because we want to help those we love and not let anyone down. This can be true for work, friendships and relationships, or all of the above.

For example, you might not want to go to a party you were invited to. You would much rather stay in and chill out after a busy week, make some microwave popcorn and watch Grey’s Anatomy.

However, you feel obliged to go to the party because you have no valid “excuse”, for lack of a better word. You know what, maybe you need some time to yourself, and that my friend, is okay. You can’t say yes to everything. Even more importantly, you do not have to.

I must admit, I need to take my own advice on that one!

This is where self-compassion comes in. We must understand that we can not do everything and we have the right to pick and choose where our time and energy goes. Especially when you suffer with anxiety, depression or any mental health issues. It can be hard to do certain things, but you have to look deep inside yourself and ask yourself honestly, “Will this benefit me?” or “Will this bring me joy?”. If the answer is yes, be resilient and don’t let anxiety stop you. Grab life by the balls and get out there, have fun! If the answer is no, politely decline. It won’t be the end of the world.

Setting healthy boundaries like this will only increase your self-esteem and contribute to your self-respect. I know that saying “no” can be uncomfortable, but sometimes it is necessary. If like me, you are a self-confessed people pleaser, you know that it is important to practice the act of saying “no”, when something is not a priority or if it is something you feel uncomfortable doing.

We often fear saying “no” to people because we fear confrontation, rejection or feel guilt.

Comparatively, it is important to think about what will happen if we only say “yes” all of the time:

  • We become doormat’s and enablers by being overly-available.
  • We get taken for granted.
  • We lose focus.
  • We lose sight of what is important to us in order to please others.
  • We use up our time doing what others want and not what we want.
  • We lack self-compassion, favoring other peoples needs/wants over our own.

Your time and energy is precious, you deserve to decide how and when you use it.

  • It’s okay to say no if something doesn’t interest or motivate you, no matter how cool it sounds to someone else. If an opportunity doesn’t light you up, then let it go.
  • It’s okay to say no if you don’t have time to do something for someone else. You will have other opportunities to help them when you are able to. It doesn’t make you a bad person.
  • It’s okay to not have an “excuse” or “valid reason” to say no. You don’t need one.

Also, for healthy measure, it is okay to say “yes!” to things you do want to do. Don’t hold yourself back if something makes you happy, brings you joy or excitement, go for it! 😀

Set boundaries. Practice self-care. Practice saying “no” when you need to.