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How I practice self care.

Living in this modern day world can be tough. We are constantly bombarded with news, advertisements and many other anxiety inducing stimuli that has become apart of our daily lives.

Something I have learned over the years, is that if you don’t deal with stress, it will present itself in other ways to you, unless you take action and deal with it. E.g. headaches, mood swings etc.

Sometimes we forget to slow down and be in the moment, to be nice to ourselves. Practicing self-care is so important, people underestimate the benefits of a little bit of TLC and some self love.

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To begin, I mindfully stop and ask myself, “what do I need right now?”. By checking in with myself and asking simple questions about what I need and if I am neglecting a part of myself, I can take simple steps to show myself a little compassion. Here are five simple ways I practice self care..

Reading a good book.

Mindfully sitting down in a comfy spot and reading a good book, is one of life’s simple pleasures. I love burning some essential oil and making a hot cup of tea, before I curl up on the couch to read the book of my choice. There is something about holding a book that brings me immense joy. It’s especially calming when it is raining out side and you can see & hear the rain drops falling. Bliss.

Being out in nature.

When I am feeling overwhelmed or stressed, I find it very helpful to get out in nature and breath in some fresh air. Nature is very healing, getting outside for a while can really help you clear your head. I always feel better after taking a long walk on my own. I will often listen to one of my favourite podcasts (The Minimalists Podcast RuPaul Podcast) to help me let go of the day thus far. Or, I will walk in silence and really focus on filling my lungs with beautiful, cleansing air.

Meditation.

Meditation is something I have dabbled with for a few years now. I used to use it to help me drift off to sleep at night (I still do sometimes!) but I have been making it apart of my daily routine lately. I usually take five minutes to focus on my breathing and calm the thinking mind. Which, isn’t always easy as someone who suffers from anxiety and is a self confessed over-thinker.

By doing this short, daily practice, I have found a way to slow down. Meditating has helped me to become more mindful, present and aware. If I feel stressed out or anxious, I take the time to breath and focus on the present moment. This helps me to stop worrying so much, to stop looking too far ahead into the future at the billion possibilities or events that may never happen.

Yoga & Stretching.

I practice Yoga every single day. Even if I only do a few poses before bed, I am much happier for it! Yoga helps me wind down and de-stress my body by releasing tension from my muscles. I usually use videos from the Yoga with Adriene channel as a guide. Her chill personality and funny jokes, always make me feel so much better and reminds me not to take myself so seriously.

Going to see a film.

As a film fanatic, I love going to see new releases and losing myself in a cinematic performance. I love experiencing a film with a friend or loved one, munching on popcorn and having a great time. Sometimes it is good to switch off from reality for a brief while and get out of your own head.

And there you have it! My five favourite ways to practice self-care! What are yours?

Tweet me @EllieJayden or contact me on facebook to share tips and ideas!

XO

How to cosplay as Lara Croft

There’s no doubt that Lara Croft – the main character of the Tomb Raider franchise – is a true legendary action hero. We’ve seen her overcome insurmountable odds with nothing more than her wits and pistols. When her character was rebooted in Tomb Raider in 2013, she was still a badass despite the fact that she had almost zero hand-to-hand combat skills during her search for the lost kingdom of Yamatai.

Over the years, Tomb Raider has become a benchmark for successful video games. After the success of the original Tomb Raider game in 1996, numerous spinoffs were created in Lara Croft’s honor, with the most recent being Lara Croft Go – a 3D mobile game for puzzle fans. Her massive popularity also allowed her franchise to branch out past traditional consoles and into pay-to-play gaming with Lara Croft: Tomb Raider, a stand-alone title being offered on the gaming site Pocket Fruity. No matter the genre, Tomb Raider excels, which only goes to shows how serious the franchise’s game developers are in keeping it a benchmark for others to aspire to be as good as.

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Apart from being a badass in her games, the character has also become a national symbol for female empowerment, which is why many girls who go to comic cons cosplay as her. Cosplaying Lara Croft is easy as she only uses clothes that can be readily bought in boutiques. If you’re thinking about cosplaying this awesome femme fatale, here’s an easy cosplay guide that was focuses on her Angel of Darkness costume:

1. You need a black-colored tank top. Shorten the top by folding it or cutting it.
2. For her shorts, you need a pair of green camouflage ones that are turned up at the bottom with a black belt. Then, strap gun holsters to each of your legs.
3. For your footwear, you need brown-colored boots. Wear them with long, rolled-down white socks.
4. Lara wears a ponytail in Angel of Darkness. Her hair color is brown so either use a wig or dye your hair temporarily, whichever is more convenient.
5. For the gloves, you need to find black ones. If the gloves cover the entire hand, cut the gloves so your fingers show.
6. Wear a small, black backpack.
7. Lara’s make up isn’t difficult to do given the fact that she doesn’t wear a lot. Make sure to use natural-looking make up, and a lipstick that’s a bit darker than your natural skin tone.
8. Finally, wear some black-tinted sunglasses.

That’s it! Follow these easy steps and you’ll be killing it in your Lara Croft cosplay at any future comic con or party!

Happy cosplaying!

 

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The art of letting go.

Since my previous blog post about minimalism, I have been making time to declutter my living space and go through my stuff by asking myself a series of simple and direct questions.

  • When was the last time I wore/used this?
  • Will I honestly wear/use this in the next 6 months?
  • Is this useful to me?
  • Does this bring me joy?

You can make up your own questions when de-cluttering, but these are the questions that work for me personally. Once you are clear and honest with yourself, you are on the right track. Since starting my minimalism journey, I have discovered that getting rid of things isn’t as easy as I had anticipated. Some things are a lot harder to get rid of than others. For me it’s clothing & shoes.

Two days ago I decided to finally start going through my wardrobe. At first, I found it relatively easy, I had quite a few items that I was happy to donate to local charity shops. But as my wardrobe started to dwindle down, the going got tough for me. I discovered clothing that I had forgotten all about (this tends to happen when you hoard clothes for years and years!) and I found myself reminiscing about the past when I held up an old dress I used to wear all the time.

I tried it on and realised it no longer fit me. I held on to this dress for a decade and I still expected it to fit me as snug as it did when I was a teenager. Hilariously, even though it didn’t zip up all the way anymore, I still wanted to keep it! Sentimental items are the hardest to rid of. In that moment I understood that it’s not the item we want to hold on to, it’s the feeling it used to give us and the memories attached to it.

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In regards to clothing we hoard for years on end, I discovered that although these items remind us of certain events, time periods or memories, they can also make us feel horrible about ourselves. When I tried on that dress and realised that it no longer fit me, it made me feel bad about myself. Even though it’s silly to think my body wouldn’t have changed over the course of ten years. When I put on the dress, it no longer brought me joy. It no longer made me feel good about myself when I put it on. And then I finally saw it for what it was, fabric. It’s just a piece of fabric.

So, I donated it to a charity shop and decided to let someone else get value from it.

It was liberating!

Today I watched a very interesting and eye-opening TED Talks video about why we become so attached to things. Rewiring our brains to dissociate our feelings towards inanimate objects is difficult. We’ve been sold things all of our lives, we see adverts almost very minute of the day on our commutes to work, our social media feeds and even in the films we watch. In order avoid succumbing to these advertisements, we must become more aware. Awareness is the key to freeing ourselves from the illusion of advertisements and the want for useless things.

Delving into the world of minimalism has been a great joy for me so far. I have found that I feel lighter, less stressed, my awareness has increased and the act of letting go of things that no longer bring me joy is incredibly freeing. Although the de-cluttering process is bringing up a lot of feelings and emotions, it’s nice to actually begin to face my thoughts head on and be gentle with myself. Usually, if I feel a resistance when getting rid of something, I put it in a bag for a day or two and see how I feel later. More often than not, I conclude that the item is not of great importance to me. Sometimes, letting go is a process and there is no shame in that.

I just remind myself that it’s okay to let go.

XO

Discovering Minimalism.

What do you think of when you think of minimalism? If you’re anything like me, you may have thought instantly of a crisp white room, displaying a barely any furniture. Maybe just a wooden chair and a table, with a small but stylish plant placed neatly in the center. To me, minimalism seemed arty and slightly pretentious. It was a hashtag on instagram, not a lifestyle or movement. Looking back, I initially associated it with interior design more than anything else!

But boy was I wrong.

Over the holiday season I had fallen ill with a flu, it was so bad I couldn’t leave my bed for almost a week or more. I was so weak and miserable, I did the only thing I could do. I watched some Netflix.

I came across a documentary called Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things.

Hand-on-heart, I can honestly say that this documentary has changed the way I look at things, and for the better. So much, that I feel happier than I have felt in a long time, due to adopting the principles laid out by the documentaries storytellers, Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus.

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I was enlightened to discover that minimalism was not a pretentious instagram trend, but a lifestyle and a philosophy. After watching the documentary, for days I pondered the questions it posed. I am still thinking a lot about it and even introduced a friend to the documentary, whom it also had a profound affect on. I feel like a switch has gone off in my brain and I finally know what the next step is to clear my mind and cleanse my body of some of the built up stress I have been carrying around. I started by slowly getting rid of a few material possessions that brought no joy or served no purpose in my life. Essentially, I started to de-clutter, but it is so much more than that. By getting rid of things that no longer or have never severed us, we free up so much space.

Literally and spiritually. 

Essentially, the minimalist lifestyle is about freeing yourself. From the mundane carousel of consumerism, from mental clutter and so much more. To quote The Minimalists directly:

Minimalism is a tool that can assist you in finding freedom. Freedom from fear. Freedom from worry. Freedom from overwhelm. Freedom from guilt. Freedom from depression. Freedom from the trappings of the consumer culture we’ve built our lives around. Real freedom.

That doesn’t mean there’s anything inherently wrong with owning material possessions. Today’s problem seems to be the meaning we assign to our stuff: we tend to give too much meaning to our things, often forsaking our health, our relationships, our passions, our personal growth, and our desire to contribute beyond ourselves. Want to own a car or a house? Great, have at it! Want to raise a family and have a career? If these things are important to you, then that’s wonderful. Minimalism simply allows you to make these decisions more consciously, more deliberately.

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This lifestyle has impacted me in a such a profound and deep way. I am so interested in learning more about the art of letting go. I have held so much in, for so long and I finally think it is time to start de-cluttering my life, starting with what I own.

Minimalism is really helping me work through a lot of emotions and thoughts that I have been too scared to deal with for many years. By getting rid of the literally clutter in my life, I am learning about focusing on what matters to me, the best way to describe it is like seeing a fog clear. I feel mindful about what or whom I allow into my life now, I ask myself what purpose does this person/object/experience serve. Does it/they bring me joy?

I have come to learn that becoming minimalist is often a long process it can take months to finally be ready to let go of everything you don’t need. In a modern world where people are often defined by what they own, it is quite the mind fuck at times, to become hyper-aware of how zombie like we have become as consumers and as people. Minimalism is mindfulness. It’s a practice and I know I will get better at it with time and learning to let go will be a journey. And I am so excited to be taking the first steps.

I will be documenting my minimalism journey through this blog and my YouTube channel. I hope I can inspire others to try it out and see if it can cultivate a new awareness, a shift in perspective or even change someones life.

XO

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