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Reasons to stay. #WorldSuicidePreventionDay

Today is World Suicide Prevention day. A day that encourages us all to take a moment, pause and reflect on the world around us. When suffering with your mental health, it can he difficult to see the forest for the trees. It is important to create some perspective, to try and shift our mindset to a healthier outlook on life. Don’t get me wrong, I know that it isn’t easy and often times, things feel a lot deeper than this. However, I do think it is a step in the right direction.

Today, I want to focus reasons to stay alive, to keep going and see the beauty in this world.

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the little things that make our world beautiful:

  • Crisp autumn mornings
  • Comforting cups of tea
  • Travelling to a new place
  • Hearing a song you love
  • Laughing so hard you cry!
  • Suggling up on a couch with a loved one
  • Puppies!
  • Hugs and kisses
  • Funny memes
  • Good people
  • Cat videos
  • Feeling sunshine grace your skin
  • Breathing in fresh countryside air
  • Cute old couples who are still madly in love
  • Getting lost in a good book
  • Connecting with another human being

  • Dancing like nobody is watching
  • Making someone laugh
  • Vacations & holidays
  • Feeling close to someone
  • Helping others
  • Love!
  • Random acts of kindness
  • Meeting new people who “get” us
  • When your pet is happy to see you!
  • Looking up at the stars
  • Holding hands
  • Feel-good tv shows
  • Seeing your favourite band perform live
  • Wearing an outfit that makes you feel good
  • Staying up all night having deep conversations about life
  • Picking up the phone and hearing the voice of someone you love
  • The ocean and it’s wonders
  • Witnessing the beauty of nature
  • The vastness of the universe

  • Getting outdoors and exploring
  • Happy memories
  • Technology
  • The fact that his lovely video exists (It’s pure joy!)
  • Sleeping on clean bedding
  • Getting a good nights rest
  • Eating your favourite food
  • Taking a long hot shower
  • Going to the cinema
  • The amazement that we can see the moon from our living rooms
  • This 5 Year old Superhero who’s dreams came true
  • Receiving a handwritten letter in the post
  • Visiting a friend, for tea and a chat
  • Cute, random texts from people
  • Art! Poetry! Film! Theater!
  • Signing along to a song at the top of your lungs

  • Hearing a child laugh
  • Watching a hilarious comedy
  • Good things happening to those you love
  • Good things that have happened/will happen to you
  • Everyday, small things you do with loved ones
  • Sunrises and sunsets
  • Snow! Sunshine! Rain!
  • Rick & Morty
  • Chocolate
  • Making something with your own hands
  • Accomplishing goals, no matter how big or small
  • Dancing in the rain
  • The fact that anything is possible
  • Dressing up at Halloween
  • A smile from a stranger
  • Cozy evenings by the fire
  • Flowers! Trees! Animals!
  • The astonishment that we live on a globe floating in space!
  • The list goes on and on, my friend! The world is what we make of it.

If you need to talk to somebody about how you are feeling, please do. There is nothing to be ashamed of. We are humans, we are capable of compassion, love and understanding.

There will always be someone to listen. There are always reasons to stay.

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Reminder: It’s okay to say no.

As somebody who find’s it hard to say no, it is difficult for me to put aside me own needs. Mainly, because I feel the need to constantly please others and not let them down. This is something I have struggled with for a long time, and to be honest, I still do. We often put our own needs and wants on the back-burner, because we want to help those we love and not let anyone down. This can be true for work, friendships and relationships, or all of the above.

For example, you might not want to go to a party you were invited to. You would much rather stay in and chill out after a busy week, make some microwave popcorn and watch Grey’s Anatomy.

However, you feel obliged to go to the party because you have no valid “excuse”, for lack of a better word. You know what, maybe you need some time to yourself, and that my friend, is okay. You can’t say yes to everything. Even more importantly, you do not have to.

I must admit, I need to take my own advice on that one!

This is where self-compassion comes in. We must understand that we can not do everything and we have the right to pick and choose where our time and energy goes. Especially when you suffer with anxiety, depression or any mental health issues. It can be hard to do certain things, but you have to look deep inside yourself and ask yourself honestly, “Will this benefit me?” or “Will this bring me joy?”. If the answer is yes, be resilient and don’t let anxiety stop you. Grab life by the balls and get out there, have fun! If the answer is no, politely decline. It won’t be the end of the world.

Setting healthy boundaries like this will only increase your self-esteem and contribute to your self-respect. I know that saying “no” can be uncomfortable, but sometimes it is necessary. If like me, you are a self-confessed people pleaser, you know that it is important to practice the act of saying “no”, when something is not a priority or if it is something you feel uncomfortable doing.

We often fear saying “no” to people because we fear confrontation, rejection or feel guilt.

Comparatively, it is important to think about what will happen if we only say “yes” all of the time:

  • We become doormat’s and enablers by being overly-available.
  • We get taken for granted.
  • We lose focus.
  • We lose sight of what is important to us in order to please others.
  • We use up our time doing what others want and not what we want.
  • We lack self-compassion, favoring other peoples needs/wants over our own.

Your time and energy is precious, you deserve to decide how and when you use it.

  • It’s okay to say no if something doesn’t interest or motivate you, no matter how cool it sounds to someone else. If an opportunity doesn’t light you up, then let it go.
  • It’s okay to say no if you don’t have time to do something for someone else. You will have other opportunities to help them when you are able to. It doesn’t make you a bad person.
  • It’s okay to not have an “excuse” or “valid reason” to say no. You don’t need one.

Also, for healthy measure, it is okay to say “yes!” to things you do want to do. Don’t hold yourself back if something makes you happy, brings you joy or excitement, go for it! 😀

Set boundaries. Practice self-care. Practice saying “no” when you need to.


The Science Behind Anxiety.

As an anxious person, I have come to understand that information is key, knowledge is power. I like to know as much information about something as possible, so my anxious brain can asses the “risks” and prepare me for what comes next. If you suffer from anxiety, I am sure you can relate to that train of thought more than you’d care to admit!

Since I have decided to dedicate this blog to mental health and my progress in regards understanding my anxiety more, I have been doing a lot of research. It occurred to me that I had never really took the time to look up the biological and psychological reasoning for anxiety. Don’t get me wrong, I know small amounts of information about it but I never really delved into the science behind it, until now.

And what I discovered, was strangely comforting.

First off, I want to make it clear that everyone one has their own issues and experience(s), that has led them to developing anxiety. However, the way anxiety works is always the same. It is a physiological result of your body reacting to stress. In short, your body is literally trying to protect you from danger by producing a fight-or-flight response.

The fight-or flight response is a reaction your body produces to protect yourself from perceived, impending danger. Back in the cave man days, this was really useful for fighting off wild animals etc. and essentially kicked our brains into survival mode. During this response, the brain releases a chemical in an area of the brain called the hypothalamus. During this time, chemicals like adrenaline and cortisol (stress hormones) are released into our blood streams. Blood rushes to the lower half of our body, our heart rate increases and our senses sharpen, keeping us incredibly alert to the potential dangers that surround us. So, ironically, stress doesn’t set out to kills us, it actually wants us to survive! But sometimes, it sure doesn’t feel that way.

The problem with anxiety in modern, western society, is that we aren’t avoiding dinosaurs or hunting for food daily to survive anymore, but our bodies still react the same way to perceived danger. Prolonged stress can often result in a list of physiological and psychological problems, such as irrational thoughts, irrational fear, headaches, stomach cramps etc. Anxiety affects the entire body if external and internal stressors aren’t dealt with. Anxiety doesn’t need to know specifically why you are stressed, it just reacts to stress accordingly.

In regards to the anatomy of the brain, the stress hormones and stress regulatory systems at play are the prefrontal cortex, the amygdala and the hippocampus. The prefrontal cortex is the part of our brain that helps us with planning and contributes to personality development, it is the “higher thinking” part of our brain. The amygdala is located behind each ear and this part of the brain is responsible for survival instincts, emotional behavior and fear. When signaled, the amygdala will interact with the hippocampus, which will in-turn allow the brain to connect emotion to events, releasing stress hormones. Basically, anxiety trips your poor amygdala, which is trying to act like a house alarm by letting you know danger is near, when really there is nothing life threatening happening externally at all.

Your brain is literally “triggering” you. If you are in a situation similar to something stressful you experienced in the past, your memory has stored that as an unpleasant event. Which will fire up your amygdala, conjuring up all of the emotions and frightening memories you had in the past, as it prepares your body to deal with impending doom.

Neurologically speaking, your overactive amygdala wants the best for you but your prefrontal cortex is really fucking tired of it’s shit. All the while, your hippocampus is trying to regulate your stress hormones to calm you down but because your amygala is firing loads of warning signals, it can’t do it’s job properly. Too much cortisol (stress hormone) can actually create disfunction in how your brain stores and recalls memories. That’s right, anxiety isn’t just a bad mood, it’s literally something that chemically changes how your brain functions and reacts.

Isn’t it sort of nice to know that it’s not just you? This is how every anxious brain chemically reacts.

I discovered a lot of this mind-blowing information from the author Caroline Foran and her book Owning It, which I would highly recommend to anyone suffering with anxiety. (This is not sponsored, I just really like the book and am finding it very informative!) 

Thank you for taking the time our of your day to check out my blog. I hope you found this post useful. Make sure to check back next week, where I will be sharing more tips, thoughts and useful (hopefully!) information. Let’s break the stigma together!

You are not broken, you are not a freak and you are certainly not alone.

Ellie. xo

Let’s break the stigma.

It’s taken me a while to finally sit down and write this blog post. However, I decided that instead of trying to write the perfect post, I would just let the words flow from the heart.

Without going in to personal details, I can safely say that this month has been one of the hardest months I’ve ever had. I have taken a step back and have been doing a lot of self-reflection. I feel as though I have finally admitted to myself that something has to be done, in regards to my self-esteem and issues with anxiety. I have tried to put a band-aid on it for too long now and I have to take responsibility and do something about it. That’s not to say that I haven’t made progress with my mental health over the years. I certainly have, but I must admit that more can be done to improve my well-being, relationships and my life. This is sentiment is true for most people.

Sometimes we ignore ourselves because we don’t think we’re worthy of our own time. We push our feelings away like they are an annoying sibling. We act like a school-yard bully towards ourselves, taunting our minds with negative self talk and untrue statements.

Why do we keep telling ourselves that we aren’t good enough?

I’ve come to realise the importance of self-love and self-compassion.

Investing time in yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Treating yourself with respect and care is so eye-opening, because we often forget to do it! We’ve been conditioned to think that praising oneself in anyway, is vanity or cockiness. Sadly, in Ireland this is especially true.

It is no secret that Ireland has massive problem with mental health. As a country, we have stigmatized mental health so much so, that many people fear coming forward about their struggles, out of embarrassment. Living in a small, rural town in Ireland, I can confirm that in my own local area alone, there have been a astonishing amount of suicides in recent years. A lot of it has to do with shame. Shame for feeling depressed, anxious and fearful to talk a about it because of the stigma. It’s harrowing to think of all the lives that potentially could have been saved, if only those people had someone to talk to or tools to help them through their mental turmoil.

I have been to my local GP twice in order to seek help for my anxiety and each time I was turned away, with no support. One of the doctors told me to simple “get over it”. The other, told me I should eat more meat and vegetables. A simplistic cure for an complex, cognitive behaviour. If only it were that easy.

That is why I have decided to dedicate this blog to my mental health journey and the road to self-discovery. To contribute to breaking the stigma in Ireland, that is attached to mental health. I want to speak openly about my struggles with my issues with anxiety and mentally self-harming ways of thinking.

It is time to take the jacket off the book, to get to the true story within.

I want to finally be open with myself and others, about mental health and finding tools that work for me, so that I can share them with you all and hopefully help some people in the process too. I also want to help my loved ones understand why I feel this way and that it’s not just me being “stupid” or “over dramatic”. Mentally, it’s a hard place to be in and I don’t want to feel this way, just as much as they don’t want to see me this way.

I hope you will join me on this journey, share tips and advice and move towards a happier self. I am full of ideas for blog topics and I must admit, it is nice to feel inspired again. I’m sure it won’t be easy and I know this is cliché, but if I can help at least one person by sharing my thoughts, it will be worth it.


Getting my mojo back!

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, so I’ve decide today that I will be open about some of my struggles recently. I’ve been finding it incredibly hard to find any kind of motivation, even in regards to the things I am passionate about. I have been making YouTube videos for over eight years now, and while it has been such a wonderful experience for me, it’s also been a constant struggle. A struggle to stay motivated and to stay true to myself.

I’ve come to terms with the fact I will never be a “big” YouTuber but the lack of change or channel growth can sometimes be incredibly disheartening. I’ve realised that I need to stop trying to fit in on YouTube, and online in general, for that matter. I need to start allowing myself to have fun again and stop desperately trying to fit the mold. It never works and it is never fun.

I have always felt like I need to be one thing, have one genre of content and focus solely on that. Although to me, that is just so boring. I get that it is great for continuity but, it’s just not me. I get bored easily and I like to express myself in different ways. So why hold back on that?

Life is too damn short to limit myself. 

Which is why I am no longer uploading videos on a tight schedule, I am uploading content, only when I feel inspired to share something with the world and when I have something to say. I have been having impromptu cosplay photo shoots (see photo above), recording videos when a light bulb of inspiration goes off in my mind, and in general, having fun being creative again.

Taking the pressure off myself to “keep up with the Joneses” is really sparking a new found passion within me. There is nothing more stifling than creating something, for the sake of it.

It’s time to get back to basics and just have fun.

Because its obvious when someone is passionate about something. That in itself, is inspiring.

Confessions in cosplay..

4 simple ways to have more meaningful interactions.


In the modern world, we use our phones a lot. Some might say, too much. Whenever we think about leaving our phones behind or putting them away for a set period of time, we get anxiety or we convince ourselves we need them just-in-case. We act like our phones help us to be more present and stay in touch with people. In fact, they do the exact opposite. The truth is, we’ve become so used to being connected to social media, we forget how to interact with people in the real world. When interacting face-to-face it is so important to have manners and engage.

There is nothing more insulting to me than someone texting or tweeting from their phone when in conversation with me. It’s disrespectful and makes you feel like you aren’t interesting enough for that person to devote their attention to in that moment.

The first and most common mistake we make, is putting our phones on the table when we sit down. Leave your phone in your bag, it won’t kill you to put your phone away for a short period of time. Believe me, you’ll be thankful you dedicated time to your friend or loved one. Spending time with genuine people and having good conversations, is worth putting your phone away.

You won’t regret it.

Make the effort, offline.

Like I mentioned previously, a lot of us are dependent on social media and our phones for our daily interactions. It is important that we make the effort to connect in other ways, like an old fashioned phone call, text or (bare with me) a postcard. Let’s be honest, “liking” someone’s photo on Instagram is not interacting with them, it passive and quite frankly, if that is your way of interacting, it’s down right lazy. Sorry to be harsh, but it’s true.

We often trick our brains into thinking we know everything going on in someones life, because we are up to date with their social media feeds but it’s important to make the effort. By calling someone, sending a text or a postcard, we are directly reaching out and showing that person that we wanted to see how they are doing. People appreciate the effort, it’s a small kindness but it means a lot to people. Plus, everyone loves getting cute, unexpected letters or cards!

While I’m on this topic, if they are still in your life, call your grandparents.

You have no idea how precious their time is and how a phone call can make their day.

Compliment people.

But only if it’s genuine. It can be something as small as complimenting someones outfit, positive changes they’ve made to their life or praise on a job well-done. A simple compliment can go a long way and can really make someones day. Giving compliments is also a very beneficial social skill, it creates a good atmosphere and is encouraging.

Make eye contact.

Eye contact is incredibly important when it comes to making a connection with someone. It shows that you are listening and attentive. Making direct eye contact with someone can also help you read situations better, which in turn, will lead to a more positive interaction. If you are not great at making eye contact, just remember that practice makes perfect. By making an effort to look someone in the eye, you will appear more confident and engaging.

Be present and allow yourself to enjoy the time that you spend with loved ones.

Moments become memories and memories are priceless.

How meditation is helping me overcome my anxiety.

If you’ve been a long time reader/viewer of mine, you know of my struggles with anxiety. To be honest, I can’t remember when my issues with anxiety arose. It may have developed in my teen years or maybe, it was always there? Lingering in the background like Pennywise the clown, waiting to scare the shit out of me at any given moment! As funny as it may sound, that’s actually quite an accurate description of what anxiety has felt like for me over the past few years. A scary, threatening entity that is always waiting to pounce.

I have read countless self-help books in order to learn the magical cure to ridding myself of this looming feeling. Nothing has worked for me, no matter how practical the advice. Not because the advice wasn’t helpful, but because I wasn’t open to receiving the information. That’s what anxiety does to us, it doesn’t let us see past our own fear.

Recently, I have discovered minimalism. Minimalism is a lifestyle that allows us to focus on the important aspects of our lives by ridding ourselves of the excess and zoning in on what is important to us. By using minimalism as a tool to de-clutter both my outer and inner space, I have been able to prioritise what my needs are. In doing this, I realised that I never gave my thinking mind a rest. It was constantly running like an engine getting ready to finally burn out. Instead of listening to my inner thoughts, I hid from them. I kept pushing them down further and further until they were muffled cries beneath the surface. But you know what happens to suppressed emotions? They take physical form, they infiltrate our bodies and kick us when we’re down, making us sick and run-down.

I noticed that by not dealing with my stress, I was making myself physically unwell. My immune system was shot,  I caught every bug and flu going, not to mention the fact that I was constantly tired and irritable. I was always snapping at my loved ones for no reason at all. The most ironic thing of all, was that I was completely blind to the fact that I was the one causing this anguish within myself. I blamed it on the bad weather, a shift in temperature or not using hand sanitizer at ever opportunity. I had became so used to feeling anxious, I had made it apart of my physical make up.

I decided to begin a journey to self discovery a long time ago, but only this year have I really taken it seriously. A part of that journey was to give meditation a try. I have used guided meditations in the past to help me sleep, but I had never used them purely to calm my mind during the day-time. It might not sound like there is much of a difference between those two instances but I can assure you, there is.

Since January of this year, I’ve been using the Calm meditation app (not sponsored, just FYI!) and it has allowed me to stay accountable and consistent with my practice. It tracks each meditation on a calendar and helps you to focus on specific areas of your life that need healing. There are guided meditations for all sorts of things, such as stress, anxiety, gratitude and self-love, to name but a few. I have discovered that sitting with my thoughts isn’t this big scary thing I’ve made it out to be, it’s actually very interesting. Meditation is teaching me to hear what my thinking-mind has to say and what it worries about. However, the most important part of my meditation practice comes in the form of what is known as, noting. In layman’s terms, noting is essentially the practice of simply acknowledging a thought and letting it pass by without judgement.

The simple act of recognising our thoughts and not getting wrapped up in them, is quite transformative. In fact, it’s the opposite of anxious thought! Anxiety makes us over-think and over-analyse our thoughts to the point of exhaustion. Taking in to consideration that humans think up to 50,000 – 70,000 thoughts per day, that’s a heck of a lot of worrying to get through on a daily basis. By implementing mindfulness into our lives, we are giving ourselves a break from this chaotic way of thinking. Believe me, it isn’t always easy to do this but as the famous saying goes, practice makes perfect.

Meditation is something I would recommend to everyone. It is not something that only the most enlightened individuals can do, it is something everyone can practice and benefit from. Living in the modern world is not always easy, it can be overwhelming to say the least. Meditation gives us space to de-clutter our minds from what is going on in the physical world and helps us to regenerate feelings of calm, compassion and stillness. If we can begin to use meditation as a tool, it can be life-changing. If you think meditation is just some wishy-washey bull-crap, you’re not alone. However, science is on meditation’s side!

According to studies, research shows that after eight-weeks, it is possible to shrink the brain’s “flight or fight” response. If you would like more information on the benefits of mediation, Forbes recently posted a great article about 7 Ways Meditation Can Actually Change the Brain.

In order to avail of the benefits of mediation, you don’t need to do anything fancy. Just start off small, even five minutes of meditation a day can do wonders for a person. I would suggest using an app to track your progress and help you ease yourself into a regular practice. Alternatively, there are thousands of wonderful guided and un-guided meditations on YouTube. My favourite meditation channel is The Honest Guys youtube channel, it’s full of beautiful, free meditations. There is something for everyone on their channel, I highly recommend it.

Meditation is helping me to understand my myself, listen to by body and not judge every single though that goes through my mind. Meditation is a rest period and a time heal. Honestly, I feel like I have discovered something that is so helpful, in some many ways, that I want to shout it from the rooftops so everyone else can know about it. Meditation is a practice, it takes time and time is our most precious gift. I think it is important to make time for ourselves no matter how busy our lives may be. Meditation is a way to give back to ourselves and to get to know ourselves as human beings. Like any new venture, the hardest part is getting started.

Once you open your mind to the prospect of mediation, it can be truly wonderful.