Bisexuals aren’t always acknowledged in society, sometimes not even in the LGBT community. It pains me to say that I’ve seen many a tweet/article/video diminishing the validity of many people’s bisexuality. It is something that both enrages and saddens me. We’ve even seen this type of bi-erasure in popular culture and some of my favourite t.v shows are no exception to this kind of bi-phobia. I even wrote a blog post about this called bi-erasure & why it has to stop.
As a bisexual woman, I wanted to do something positive and show people that bisexual people do in fact exist (I know, you were second guessing us there for a hot minute, weren’t you?) and we come in all different shapes, sizes, backgrounds and cultures. That’s right, we aren’t unicorns. No matter how much some people (and sometimes we) wish we were. We are people, just like you.
So, in celebration of the bi community. I’d like to share some of my favourite bisexual bloggers! These people have bravely shared their stories online and fight to empower others who are struggling with their sexual identity and inform people that it is okay to like both men and women. It isn’t a myth, some people prefer both and they aren’t just saying it for attention.
– Rachel Whitehurst –
This chick is seriously one of the coolest people on YouTube. I have been a subscriber of her’s for years and she cracks me up. Her beauty reviews have me in tears laughing and I love that she curses like a sailor, just like me. Rachel is real and she doesn’t give a fuck what people think about her. I would strongly suggest that you check out her Bye Phobia video series on YouTube, where she discusses her coming out story and her journey to self acceptance, as well as answering viewers questions about bisexuality. I love this video series because it is so stripped down and informative, there is no bullshit with Rachel. She is happy to speak openly to her audience about being bisexual and offers some solid advice on how to accept and love yourself for who you are.
– Kiera Rose –
As well as being one of my best friends, Kiera Rose is a wonderful blogger who is so genuine and beloved by her audience, it is hard not to love her. Kiera has made some wonderful videos about bisexuality, including Bisexuality: Myths vs Facts, which debunks horrendous stereotypes about bisexuality. Kiera’s YouTube channel is one of my favourite channels to watch online. She posts a diverse mix of videos, including beauty, lifestyle and more. Kiera Rose is also one of the best (if not the best) Xena cosplayers in the entire world. You can see proof of this here! *fangirl alert*
– Melanie Murphy –
Okay, okay. A lot of these recommedations may seem slightly biased because some of these people are friends of mine but Melanie is honestly one of the best Irish YouTubers out there. Melanie has a variety of fantastic skincare and beauty videos on her channel, as well as videos speaking openly about bisexuality. My Sexuality & How To Come Out and Sexuality Myths With Riyadh K are both fun and helpful videos where Melanie discusses her own coming out story and advice for other people who identify as bisexual. Her videos are full of advice & useful info!
– Connor Manning –
I know, I know. ‘A GUY ON THIS LIST’ you say, ‘FINALLY!’ Connor Manning is a YouTuber I have been subscribed to for a long time, even before Connor announced to his audience that he is bisexual. His videos are thought provoking and often times, I will walk from away one of Connor’s videos pondering certain issues and looking at things differently. One of my favourite videos of his is Bisexual Myths, which is very interesting to view through a bisexual male’s perspective.
– DrNeevil –
Niamh AKA DrNeevil (how great is that username!?) is one of the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. She is an amazing person, as well as being a strong, opinionated woman, who identifies as bisexual. Niamh is my (wonderful) podcast co-host on the Conversations with Geek People podcast and a very dear friend of mine. Niamh is a fantastic blogger, who deserves many more readers to flock to her site, her content is always honest and enjoyable to read. She posts blogs about geek culture and hosts the award winning Leeds Book Club in the UK.
So, there you have it everyone! My favourite bisexual bloggers. If you have any recommendations for me, I would love to hear about them. I love discovering new bloggers & new content!
Gigi (Giselle) Gorgeous is one of my fave YouTuber’s ever. I’ve watched her transition into the beautiful person she is today and have gained so much wisdom from her, not to mention a lot of great beauty tips! I am always in awe of Gigi’s self-confidence and style, she always looks flawless (check out her Instagram for proof!) Her style is very glamorous and is inspired by all things girly.
Gigi only wears the best of the best, a lot of her clothes and accessories are designer. Some of her favourite brands include YSL, Moschino and Balenciaga. Gigi wears a lot of red’s and pink’s. She loves bodycon dresses that accentuate her curves and crop tops to show off her toned midriff.
Gigi is a huge makeup and beauty fan, a lot of her videos are beauty related and she shares her favourite products and beauty tips on her YouTube channel with her subscribers. I also really enjoy her story-time videos! They are hilarious and usually pretty crazy to say the least!
Gigi’s face is always BEAT FOR DAH GAWWWWDS! She is rarely seen without a good set of eyelashes, as well as Too Faced Better Than Sex Mascara. Lately, she is loving lashes from the eylure range and usually keeps her look quite natural, by using a neutral eye shadow palette and lipstick’s in nude colours, as well as pigmented pink and red shades.
She also loves to use bronzer, to give her that California glow. One of Gigi’s beauty secrets is to take good care of her skin by sticking to a skincare routine, she swears by Hope in a Jar by Philosophy, as one of her favourite moisturizers, to keep her skin hydrated and plump.
To learn more about Gigi’s fave make up look, check out her Everyday Beauty Routine video.
As well as being incredibly beautiful and glamorous, Gigi also does a lot of work for the Transgender & LGBT community. She came out as being trans a few years ago and has been a beacon of hope for many young people. You can read more about Gigis very public transition in her very personal interview with Cosmopolitan . Gigi continues to surprise me in many ways, through her gorgeous beauty looks and her bravery to share her story with the world.
Gigi is more than just a beauty icon, she is a inspiration.
Bisexual erasure is term I recently learned, I’ve always known it was a ‘thing’ but I never knew a term had been coined to describe the tendency to dispute a person’s bisexuality. There is a ‘B’ in LGBT but I feel like bisexuals get the short end of the stick in the community sometimes.
Personally, I have been told by other members of the LGBT community, as wells as those who identify as heterosexual, that bisexuality doesn’t exist. I must admit, hearing these words hurts more when it comes from another member of the LGBT community. It hurts more because as a community, I feel like we should try harder to understand and accept each other for who we are.
According to the popular website Urban Dictionary, bisexual erasure is described as:
The tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, the news media, and other primary sources. In its most extreme form, bisexual erasure can include denying that bisexuality exists.
There have been many bisexual characters on T.V and in films over the past few years. Even though these characters identify themselves as bisexual, other characters often refer to them as homosexuals. There is a big difference between being homosexual and bisexual.
Bisexuals prefer both male & female, while homosexuals prefer their own gender.
I think one of the reasons for the confusion about bisexuality and the questioning of it’s legitimacy, is because many people use it as a pit stop before coming out.
Most people feel that it is a lot easier to say that they are bisexual, than admit to themselves and others that they are homosexual. I have many homosexual friends who’ve claimed to be bisexual at first, to ease themselves into coming out. That isn’t their fault at all, it’s societies fault.
It does however, make bisexuality seem illegitimate at times.
Calling bisexuality a “phase” or “just being greedy” is also extremely inconsiderate and ignorant. Even some of my favorite show’s have had bouts of bi erasure in their scripts. Willow Rosenberg, from Buffy The Vampire Slayer was referred to as a being gay because she dated Tara. Willow also had a deeply loving relationship with a male character named Oz, in previous seasons.
Yet, she was never referred to as a bisexual character.
Or take the popular Netflix series Orange Is The New Black, where main character Piper Chapman is referred to as a “former lesbian”, despite her past relationships with men.
True Blood actress Anna Paquin shut down Larry King after he questioned her bisexuality, referring to her as a “nonpracticing bisexual”. Skip to the 11 minute mark for her response!
So let’s get this straight (pardon the pun!) women who identify as bisexual are not straight when they are dating a male, nor are they lesbians when dating a female. The logic applies to bisexual men also, of course. Bisexuality is a legitimate sexuality, regardless of what the media and social norms may lead people to believe.
Bisexual people have a lot to deal with, we get told that we are liars and are more likely to cheat on our partners because we like both sexes, which is just preposterous. We are not ripping off our pants at the sight of every person we meet on the street, like everyone else we have our preferences.
I suggest checking out this fantastic article about Bisexual Women Discussing Their Long-Term Relationships With Men. Not to disappoint you but we’re not closet lesbians and we shouldn’t have to defend ourselves as part of the LGBT community.
Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbanna are two of the most powerful gay men in fashion & the world. So you’d think they’d do everything in their power to support the LGBT community, right?!
In a recent interview with an Italian magazine D&G told the world what their thoughts are on gay couples being able to adopt. “We oppose gay adoptions,” they say, “The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed.” Domenico also stated “I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Rented uterus, semen chosen from a catalogue. I am opposed to the idea of a child growing up with two gay parents.”
Their statement caused controversy and outrage among the gay community and pissed off the most famous gay father on the planet, Elton John. Elton has two sons born through a surrogate with husband David Furnish.
Elton took to his Instagram account to voice his anger:
“How dare you refer to my beautiful children as ‘synthetic’. And shame on you for wagging your judgemental little fingers at IVF – a miracle that has allowed legions of loving people, both straight and gay, to fulfill their dream of having children. Your archaic thinking is out of step with the times, just like your fashions. I shall never wear Dolce and Gabbana ever again. #BoycottDolceGabbana”
It honestly baffles me how backwards people can be, especially when they are going against the current of their own social struggle. Dolce & Gabbana are just supporting the backward view that gay couples should not be allowed to have children. They are not only insulting many members of the LGBT community but couples who use IVF treatments to try to start a family.
In my personal opinion, family is about love, not DNA.
I have friends who were adopted as babies and have incredibly loving and supportive families. Family isn’t something you are born with most of the time, it is something you can create also. Family is unconditional love. Family is whatever you make it to be.
Family is affection without any limitations.
Shiloh Jolie-Pitt recently made headlines when she appeared a the premier of her Mother’s film “Unbroken.” The reason the eight year shocked the media was because she turned up at the event wearing a suit. For a long time now it has been known that Shilohs parents, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, follow their child’s wishes to dress in boy’s clothing. The Jolie-Pitt’s have publicly said that Shiloh identifies more with boyish and masculine things, it has even been reported that Shiloh has asked her family members to refer to her primarily as, John.
After the eight year old’s appearance on the red carpet, the internet was buzzing with opinions. A lot of people referred to the Jolie-Pitt’s as a crazy, messed up Hollywood family, who are ruining their kids lives by going along with Shiloh’s wishes. Other’s blamed celebrity culture.
Model, Amber Rose has received a lot of backlash for referring to Shiloh as a “transkid” on social media. Amber, posted a message of support for Shiloh on social media and was met with dismay. It’s safe to say that everyone has an opinion on this issue, including me.
I like to think of myself as a very open minded and accepting person. I pride myself on being a member and supporter of the LGBT community and there isn’t a lot that shocks me any more, including the ignorance that some people display. I can however, understand why some people do not understand what being Transgender means and can sometimes be confused or uneducated about the subject of gender and gender identities.
I have heard people say things like “Why are there so many gays/weirdo’s now days? There was never this many years ago!”. This is the kind of thing people say when they are ignorant to other peoples lives and struggles.
The reason why there are so many openly out and proud people now days, is because society is slowly but surely becoming more accepting. It’s not because LGBT people “didn’t exist” back in the day. There have always been LGBT people in communities, most of them were and are too afraid to be themselves, due to fear of rejection. Even more harrowing, people sometimes fear for their lives. So, I think it is safe to say that anyone who opens up to their family, communities or even the world about their sexual preference or gender identity is very brave indeed.
Many people are slating the Jolie-Pitt family, for allowing their child to make their own decisions about how they live their life. I personally think that Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt should be proud that they are such open minded parents, who are allowing their child to explore their identity on their own accord.
Sadly, the same cannot be said for Leelah Alcorn, a transgender teenager from Ohio. Leelah’s Mother was a devout Christian, who refused to accept her child’s gender identity. Leelah, had been forced by her Mother to undergo conversion therapy. The “therapy” aims to change sexual orientation through counselling. Leelah left behind a suicide note and walked in front of an oncoming truck in order to take her own life.
Leelah’s story is tragic and sadly, not uncommon. The suicide rate within the Trangender community is high. In a survey done by UCLA, it has been reported that 41% of the Transgender people who took part in the survey, have attempted suicide, which is nine times higher than the national average.
What shocks me is, people expressed their disgust and sadness for Leelah’s story and agree that her Mother could have done more, to accept her child and to educate herself about her child’s gender identity. However, many people seem to believe that the Jolie-Pitt’s are brainwashing their child into thinking that she is a boy, by allowing their child the freedom of self expression. Double standard much?
The thing I hear people say most, in regards to Shiloh Jolie-Pitt is, “She’s just going through a phase, her parents shouldn’t encourage it.” So what if Shiloh is going through a phase, in fact, lets assume it is a phase. Is it really so bad that a child wears clothes that are not assigned to the gender they were born into physically? Does if effect your your life in any way? The answer is a booming, NO. If it is a phase, Shiloh will move on and can rest on the knowledge that her parents truly love her for who she is. I for one, don’t think that is a bad thing.
If Leelah Alcorn’s parents reacted in the way the Jolie-Pitt’s reacted to Shiloh’s decision to identify as John, then Leelah might still be with us today. Acceptance goes a long way, all anyone wants is to be loved by those closest to them. Being Transgender is nothing to be ashamed of and I think if more parents accepted their children for who they are, this world would be a much better place to live in.
I think it is time that schools educated children and adults alike on the topic of gender identity and the LGBT community in general. Education is key and knowledge is power.
Knowledge saves lives and trans lives matter.
On the front page of MSN.ie yesterday the headline read “Cara Delevingne and Michelle Rodriguez confirm they are a couple”. After being spotted a basketball game kissing and being intimate, rumors began flying about that the two where an item and Michelle Rodriguez confirmed the suspected relationship to The Mirror.
I for one, think they look adorable together.
Also this week Chicago Fire actress Monica Raymund tweeted about her admiration and pride to be apart of the LGBT community. Which a few people responded saying that they think being bisexual wasn’t “queer enough” to be considered a sexuality that should be apart of the LBGT community. These type of comments enrage me, I don’t understand how people can write off bisexuality like it is a made up sexual preference. Some people like men AND women and I am among that category, which is bigger than you might think.
Bisexual people get fobbed off as being “greedy” which is such a childish argument it is almost laughable. Or most people seem to believe it to be an attention seeking status that girls throw about in order to make guys think they are edgy and hot. I am sure that there are some people out there who do that sort of thing but you can’t call every woman who announces she is bisexual, attention seeking. In my own personal opinion, love is love. Isn’t that what we are trying to explain through the gay rights movement? Bare in mind there is a “B” in LGBT for a reason. Because bisexuality is a legitimate sexual preference, not some made up mumbo jumbo to be sufficed as an excuse to seem “cool” in front of horny men or women alike.
I don’t think I have ever mentioned this openly in a blog or video but I like men and women.
I am not ashamed of that fact what so ever.
In fact, looks or gender are not that important to me.
Of course that doesn’t mean I find everyone in the world attractive! I have my preferences like anyone else. I don’t go around telling everyone about it because it’s no ones business but my own. Also, I don’t think it is a big deal! It’s a small part of who I am and I don’t let it effect how I live my life in any big dramatic way because it’s not that big of a deal. The people who love me will accept it and those who won’t can pretty much move on with their lives like I have mine. Right now I am happily with the love of my life who happens to be a man, who is understanding and accepting of me in every way.
I wrote this blog post to make a stand for the letter that rightfully belongs to me and so many others in LGBT. I was inspired by Ellen Page coming out this week and Cara & Michelle announcing their relationship to the world.
And I hope to see more female power couples in the near future. 😉