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4 simple ways to have more meaningful interactions.

PUT. YOUR. PHONE. AWAY.

In the modern world, we use our phones a lot. Some might say, too much. Whenever we think about leaving our phones behind or putting them away for a set period of time, we get anxiety or we convince ourselves we need them just-in-case. We act like our phones help us to be more present and stay in touch with people. In fact, they do the exact opposite. The truth is, we’ve become so used to being connected to social media, we forget how to interact with people in the real world. When interacting face-to-face it is so important to have manners and engage.

There is nothing more insulting to me than someone texting or tweeting from their phone when in conversation with me. It’s disrespectful and makes you feel like you aren’t interesting enough for that person to devote their attention to in that moment.

The first and most common mistake we make, is putting our phones on the table when we sit down. Leave your phone in your bag, it won’t kill you to put your phone away for a short period of time. Believe me, you’ll be thankful you dedicated time to your friend or loved one. Spending time with genuine people and having good conversations, is worth putting your phone away.

You won’t regret it.

Make the effort, offline.

Like I mentioned previously, a lot of us are dependent on social media and our phones for our daily interactions. It is important that we make the effort to connect in other ways, like an old fashioned phone call, text or (bare with me) a postcard. Let’s be honest, “liking” someone’s photo on Instagram is not interacting with them, it passive and quite frankly, if that is your way of interacting, it’s down right lazy. Sorry to be harsh, but it’s true.

We often trick our brains into thinking we know everything going on in someones life, because we are up to date with their social media feeds but it’s important to make the effort. By calling someone, sending a text or a postcard, we are directly reaching out and showing that person that we wanted to see how they are doing. People appreciate the effort, it’s a small kindness but it means a lot to people. Plus, everyone loves getting cute, unexpected letters or cards!

While I’m on this topic, if they are still in your life, call your grandparents.

You have no idea how precious their time is and how a phone call can make their day.

Compliment people.

But only if it’s genuine. It can be something as small as complimenting someones outfit, positive changes they’ve made to their life or praise on a job well-done. A simple compliment can go a long way and can really make someones day. Giving compliments is also a very beneficial social skill, it creates a good atmosphere and is encouraging.

Make eye contact.

Eye contact is incredibly important when it comes to making a connection with someone. It shows that you are listening and attentive. Making direct eye contact with someone can also help you read situations better, which in turn, will lead to a more positive interaction. If you are not great at making eye contact, just remember that practice makes perfect. By making an effort to look someone in the eye, you will appear more confident and engaging.

Be present and allow yourself to enjoy the time that you spend with loved ones.

Moments become memories and memories are priceless.

How I practice self care.

Living in this modern day world can be tough. We are constantly bombarded with news, advertisements and many other anxiety inducing stimuli that has become apart of our daily lives.

Something I have learned over the years, is that if you don’t deal with stress, it will present itself in other ways to you, unless you take action and deal with it. E.g. headaches, mood swings etc.

Sometimes we forget to slow down and be in the moment, to be nice to ourselves. Practicing self-care is so important, people underestimate the benefits of a little bit of TLC and some self love.

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To begin, I mindfully stop and ask myself, “what do I need right now?”. By checking in with myself and asking simple questions about what I need and if I am neglecting a part of myself, I can take simple steps to show myself a little compassion. Here are five simple ways I practice self care..

Reading a good book.

Mindfully sitting down in a comfy spot and reading a good book, is one of life’s simple pleasures. I love burning some essential oil and making a hot cup of tea, before I curl up on the couch to read the book of my choice. There is something about holding a book that brings me immense joy. It’s especially calming when it is raining out side and you can see & hear the rain drops falling. Bliss.

Being out in nature.

When I am feeling overwhelmed or stressed, I find it very helpful to get out in nature and breath in some fresh air. Nature is very healing, getting outside for a while can really help you clear your head. I always feel better after taking a long walk on my own. I will often listen to one of my favourite podcasts (The Minimalists Podcast RuPaul Podcast) to help me let go of the day thus far. Or, I will walk in silence and really focus on filling my lungs with beautiful, cleansing air.

Meditation.

Meditation is something I have dabbled with for a few years now. I used to use it to help me drift off to sleep at night (I still do sometimes!) but I have been making it apart of my daily routine lately. I usually take five minutes to focus on my breathing and calm the thinking mind. Which, isn’t always easy as someone who suffers from anxiety and is a self confessed over-thinker.

By doing this short, daily practice, I have found a way to slow down. Meditating has helped me to become more mindful, present and aware. If I feel stressed out or anxious, I take the time to breath and focus on the present moment. This helps me to stop worrying so much, to stop looking too far ahead into the future at the billion possibilities or events that may never happen.

Yoga & Stretching.

I practice Yoga every single day. Even if I only do a few poses before bed, I am much happier for it! Yoga helps me wind down and de-stress my body by releasing tension from my muscles. I usually use videos from the Yoga with Adriene channel as a guide. Her chill personality and funny jokes, always make me feel so much better and reminds me not to take myself so seriously.

Going to see a film.

As a film fanatic, I love going to see new releases and losing myself in a cinematic performance. I love experiencing a film with a friend or loved one, munching on popcorn and having a great time. Sometimes it is good to switch off from reality for a brief while and get out of your own head.

And there you have it! My five favourite ways to practice self-care! What are yours?

Tweet me @EllieJayden or contact me on facebook to share tips and ideas!

XO