PUT. YOUR. PHONE. AWAY.
In the modern world, we use our phones a lot. Some might say, too much. Whenever we think about leaving our phones behind or putting them away for a set period of time, we get anxiety or we convince ourselves we need them just-in-case. We act like our phones help us to be more present and stay in touch with people. In fact, they do the exact opposite. The truth is, we’ve become so used to being connected to social media, we forget how to interact with people in the real world. When interacting face-to-face it is so important to have manners and engage.
There is nothing more insulting to me than someone texting or tweeting from their phone when in conversation with me. It’s disrespectful and makes you feel like you aren’t interesting enough for that person to devote their attention to in that moment.
The first and most common mistake we make, is putting our phones on the table when we sit down. Leave your phone in your bag, it won’t kill you to put your phone away for a short period of time. Believe me, you’ll be thankful you dedicated time to your friend or loved one. Spending time with genuine people and having good conversations, is worth putting your phone away.
You won’t regret it.
Make the effort, offline.
Like I mentioned previously, a lot of us are dependent on social media and our phones for our daily interactions. It is important that we make the effort to connect in other ways, like an old fashioned phone call, text or (bare with me) a postcard. Let’s be honest, “liking” someone’s photo on Instagram is not interacting with them, it passive and quite frankly, if that is your way of interacting, it’s down right lazy. Sorry to be harsh, but it’s true.
We often trick our brains into thinking we know everything going on in someones life, because we are up to date with their social media feeds but it’s important to make the effort. By calling someone, sending a text or a postcard, we are directly reaching out and showing that person that we wanted to see how they are doing. People appreciate the effort, it’s a small kindness but it means a lot to people. Plus, everyone loves getting cute, unexpected letters or cards!
While I’m on this topic, if they are still in your life, call your grandparents.
You have no idea how precious their time is and how a phone call can make their day.
But only if it’s genuine. It can be something as small as complimenting someones outfit, positive changes they’ve made to their life or praise on a job well-done. A simple compliment can go a long way and can really make someones day. Giving compliments is also a very beneficial social skill, it creates a good atmosphere and is encouraging.
Make eye contact.
Eye contact is incredibly important when it comes to making a connection with someone. It shows that you are listening and attentive. Making direct eye contact with someone can also help you read situations better, which in turn, will lead to a more positive interaction. If you are not great at making eye contact, just remember that practice makes perfect. By making an effort to look someone in the eye, you will appear more confident and engaging.
Be present and allow yourself to enjoy the time that you spend with loved ones.
Moments become memories and memories are priceless.